A few weeks ago I read about a few girls who were buying rings and wearing them as anti-engagement rings: a promise to love yourself. You can find the article here and I’ll leave you to make up your own mind on it.
Now the rings they’ve been buying were a little out of my price range and so I decided to find a ring that I liked and wear it instead. Does that seem childish?
Following the childhood pattern of pinky promises, this is meant to be like a pinky promise to yourself to put yourself first and love yourself. As the card says, you promise to honour yourself, choose yourself and remember yourself on a daily basis.
Anyone who’s been reading my blog or following me on Twitter a lot recently may be aware that recently I’ve been going through a down phase where I haven’t felt happy in myself or my life choices. I’m doing things to please others while not necessarily pleasing myself. In fact, even this month one of my goals is to figure out where my head is. And so I decided that this ring would be a visual reminder to myself that not only does love come in all different shapes,sizes and forms, but love starts as something you feel in yourself, something I haven’t done in quite a long time.
I chose the rainbow coloured ring due to its LGBTQ+ associations and for this reason I may not wear it as a ring when at home, but whether it’s on my finger or on a chain around my neck the idea is still the same – I promise to look after my own state of mind.
What are your thoughts? Will you consider joining us in our pledge to ourselves? Let me know here or on Twitter or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org !
Hope you’re all well!
… for yourself. Respecting yourself can mean multiple things. Having the respect to treat your body properly through sleep, exercise and hygiene. It can also mean to not let yourself be pressured into something you don’t want to do. Stand by your principles and any decisions you make – just because someone disagrees doesn’t mean you should ignore your opinions. Be able to forgive yourself whenever you feel you’ve disrespected yourself. Don’t insult or harm yourself – when was the last time you purposefully hurt a friend, whether physically or emotionally, and would you consider it acceptable to do the same to yourself? Be completely honest with yourself. The only person you hurt when lying is yourself. Remember this. Accept the things you can’t change about yourself, they’re with you for life whether you want them or not! … for others. Treat them the way you would like to be treated. Don’t put people down or hurt them. Forgive them if they’ve done something against you. Listen to them, even if they’re talking complete nonsense. Keep promises you make. Be on time for things, or at least be apologetic if you’re in the wrong. Have some manners. A simple please or thank you can go a long long way. Ask before borrowing. Encourage your friend or colleague or family member to do that thing they’ve been talking about for ages and be supportive while they try it out. Remember, people don’t have to respect you any more than you respect them. If you treat others with respect, they’ll do the same for you. … for property. Whether it belongs to you or to a friend, property deserves respect. If you borrow something, ask first, thank the person, and where applicable return it in the same condition it reached you in. If you finish something, replace it. Don’t wait until the last possible chance to return or replace things. Treat someone else’s property as if it were your own. Would you dance on your own £200 table tennis table? No? Then why does being drunk count as an excuse for dancing on someone else’s? Why turn down the page of a book when you can use a scrap piece of paper as a bookmark?
These are the 3 basic rules my sister and I grew up with. It seems a few people weren’t taught these simple values and so it begins to irritate others.
Sorry for having a bit of a rant but I thought this needed shared. On a brighter note, a friend of a friend is part of a band and it would be great if you were to give them a listen! They’re called Tacado and can be found at any of the links below. Even if they’re not your type, please spread word to anyone you know who may like them!
Listen to Fading Colours – Single by Tacado on @AppleMusic.