Well another day over and another day closer to going on holiday! Can’t wait! Finished packing today only to find I’m over the baggage limit so at least I know there’s one thing I need to do in the morning. That pretty much took up most of my day really so at 4 I settled down to watch an episode of Orange is the New Black – season 1 episode 9 to be exact. Still only half way through it but what struck me in the first half hour was when we saw young Alex being bullied by the girls in school for what she’s wearing.
Everyone sees bullying on TV and it’s always portrayed the same way – the popular rich kids picking on someone less fortunate and always in a group. Bullying is something we’re constantly warned about all the way through our school career and it’s always very clear how to deal with it.
But what about when you leave school? Does the bullying end there? Unfortunately not. People will always try and make you feel inferior, no matter what age you are or where you’re based. Almost half of all children and young people (46%) say that they’ve been bullied at some point during their time at school, according to the Tellus4 National Report (PDF, 1.33Mb), carried out in 2009. Reading through http://www.bullyonline.org I began to realise how uncommon it is for adults to talk about their experiences. Do we just assume we deserve the treatment?
Having always been big for my age, I did experience a bit of bullying but the worst of it came when I was 16 and had my first (and last) boyfriend – haha that’s an experience for another time! My friends all turned their backs on me and one, she thinks I don’t know it was her but it so obviously was, started to spread malicious rumours about me to the point where I started to consider not going back to school. I can’t fully remember how it ended but the main thing was my best friend came back to me and we have been closer ever since.
Looking back on it now, I suppose you could argue that anything now a days is counted as bullying – going by the definition given on most websites I’ve been bullied by my own mother for years. She has made me feel inferior, always commenting about my weight and making me feel bad about myself. For years I took it and cried myself to sleep at night but as time has gone by I have developed a new coping mechanism – take her car and drive for hours before returning her car with an empty tank. Childish I know but it’s better than comfort eating. Update in 2020 – I now have my own car – instead, I spend the evening in my room playing guitar loudly until I’m over it.
The main thing to remember is that no matter who you are or what you’re going to there will always be someone who is able to help you through it. And if that person isn’t someone nearby, I’m always here.
Now, I must go and finish this episode, feel free to message me about anything 🙂 as always, either find me here or on twitter @kvburton657