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Twitter Chats

A rather mundane post for those of you who aren’t interested in these chats, but I swear talking to new people daily is the highlight of my day. Every morning, I wake up thinking ‘What chats are on today and will I be able to take part in them?’

 

Some of you may think this is a sad thing to thing about when you first wake up, but it’s given me something positive to focus on, especially over the last few weeks when all I’ve really wanted to do was lock myself in my room and eat my life away. Hopefully I’ll start pulling myself out of that soon (just so you know, you guys are another reason i get up – 128 views on Sunday?! That was incredible!) but in the mean time I’ll stick to my coping mechanisms of twitter chats, blogging and binge watching Netflix.

 

Back on track now, sorry got side tracked again. I wanted to add a timetable of my favourite twitter chats that I regularly try and get in on. I’m not sure how to add it as a downloadable thing so I’ve also copied and pasted it down below. If I’ve missed any that you feel should definitely be on the list, mention them in the comments below! Or tweet me, that works too. You don’t have to be a blogger to join a lot of them, so even if you just come by to read my posts every now and again (yes, I’m talking to you – hello!) you should consider stopping by for the fun!

Monday Tuesday Wednesday
#beechat – 5pm

#thegirlgang – 6pm

#bdib – 7pm

#fbloggers – 8pm

#healthhour – 8pm

#sassybloggers – 9pm

#nightimebloggers – 9pm

#misfitbloggers – 6pm

#askablogger – 7pm

#hungrychats – 7pm

#bookbloggers – 7pm

#teahour – 7pm

#ukblogtalk – 8pm

#fblchat – 8pm

#bloghour – 9pm

#GRLPOWR – 9pm

#TeacupClub – 5pm

#blogtalk – 6pm

#lbloggers – 7pm

#latenightbloggers – 9pm

#LNchitchat – 10pm

 

 

Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday
#crazyblogchat – 7pm

#bbabeschat – 8pm

#disneybloggerschat – 8pm

#GRLPOWR – 8pm

#beechat – 9pm

#nightimebloggers – 9pm

#lazybloggers – 7pm

#bdib – 8pm

#sbloggers – 8pm

 

 

#moonchat 12am

#fblchat – 3pm

#socialbloggers – 7pm

#chattynights – 7pm

#motblogger – 8pm

 

 

#bloggerationchat – 9:30am

#TeacupClub – 5pm

#lbloggers – 7pm

#sundayMHchat – 7pm

#GRLPOWR – 8pm

#blogospherechat – 8pm

#chattybees – 8pm

#gossipbloggers – 8:30pm

For a more extensive list, check out http://www.alishavalerie.com/p/hello-beautifuls-i-get-asked-all-time.html?m=1 . There are so many chats out there, and this is by far the best list I’ve found! Maybe see you there?

 

Ktkinnes xx

blog-chats updated

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10 Things I Wish I’d Known At The Start

Having had a few days of not a lot of blogging, I decided to make a list of the 10 things I wish I’d known at the start of blogging.

  1. Twitter is your friend. There are so many amazing bloggers out there who can support you in every little thing. Sometimes you find these amazing people completely accidentally and find yourself getting really excited when they simply like one of your posts – this person is the one you owe a lot to. Be their friend and support them back in whatever way you can.
  2. It’s okay to not post daily. I struggle to actually post daily, sometimes I remember to schedule posts, other times I’m so far behind posting that I feel guilty for not being online 24/7. This guilt is completely unjustified.
  3. You don’t need to have a specific genre of a blog. Yes, it’s great to be so invested in a specific type of blogging but this doesn’t mean you can’t diversify and cover a wide range of things! Take a look at me, I review things, post ramblings, and rarely ever branch into fashion or beauty. I suppose you could say that I do have a genre then, but it’s an open one – one in which I can be as diverse as I want!
  4. Followers will stay if you disappear for a while. Everyone needs time off. I took a year away from the blog and came back to still find I had followers! This was great motivation to continue.
  5. Your statistics will fluctuate a lot, unless of course you’re a professional blogger, and this is 100% okay. Even last week, I went from 59 views one day, to 6 a few later. 
  6. Scheduling Tweets makes life so much easier. Got a post that didn’t get as much attention as you think it deserved? Get it back out there! I use Hootsuite and its so easy to use. You should consider it!
  7. Try and have your photos preprepared for any posts that might need them. Pictures really liven up your blog and so having them handy is always a help.
  8. If you’ve got a list of blogging ideas, you don’t need to worry about writers block. I try and keep a list on either my phone or laptop as these are the 2 things I have near me when blogging. 
  9. Join as many chats and groups as possible, through whatever platforms you can! There are always great people out there to give advice on anything and everything blog related. 
  10. Blogging is addictive. Once you get the bug for it, it takes over a lot! So enjoy it and always hold onto the reasons why you started blogging. 

Any other advice? Good luck to anyone just starting out!
Ktkinnes xx

Posted in Lifestyle, Sunday's Summary

Hello from The Island!

Hello my lovely friends! How are you all? If you haven’t already guessed – I’m in Ibiza!  Well I’m actually not there yet, I’m scheduling this post in case I get too tired and fall asleep without blogging tomorrow… But by the time you’re reading this I’ll be in Ibiza!

Unfortunately, I didn’t win the euromillions on Friday night so after 11 nights I will need to go back to Northern Ireland again. But enough of that, I’ve only just arrived and I plan on making the most of this holiday. So instead of boring you with why I want to stay, shall we have a look back at the last 7 days?

Sunday, Rachel returned from Romania and woke us all up around 4:30am when she arrived in with her McDonald’s cheeseburger and fries which she proceeded to eat in front of us, offering us a bite while we were still waking up. No thanks. To mark her return, and the final of Wimbledon, Granny H came up for dinner and a good night. We were fed and watered before settling down to watch TV – Dad watching the football, Mum and I watching Les Misérables. Could there have been a more perfect way to end the week? Oh! And I almost forgot, I actually managed to take part in the Teacup Club’s Twitter chat on Sunday! 

Monday, I did a bit of revision before going on a shopping spree in Boots for some last minute holiday purchases. Would you like to see a haul post from it? Monday was quite quiet. I can’t really remember it all that well to be honest! Can’t have been anything important.

Tuesday marked the 12th of July, something of a public holiday here in Northern Ireland. To celebrate the Battle of the Boyne, there are parades and marches and the like and so we made our way down to watch them for half an hour or so. We got a good walk though, and it was a lovely warm morning. Considering I have something against loud noises (always have, always will. Couldn’t even have windows open while someone was cutting the grass) half an hour was long enough for me to cope with the Lambeg drums and loud music. Rachel’s boyfriend and his mum came around for an all afternoon barbeque, even though the rain was pouring down, and it was actually a good day. 

On Wednesday we took a road trip up to the north coast, Portrush and Port Ballintrae, for a different afternoon. It turned out to be a glorious day, and we finished it by having dinner in the Ramore Wine Bar. 


Thursday was spent revising, cleaning, and packing. Rachel was at her boyfriend’s, and I ended up having an argument with Mum so sat in my room the majority of the night.

Friday I saw Granny B and said goodbye to her before the holiday. The rest of the day was taken up with making her a list of instructions for while she’s cat-and-dog-sitting, teaching Mum how to download podcasts, painting nails and collecting our travel money. 

Saturday, holiday spirit began to take over. The kitchen was cleaned, Rachel went to her first “day” of work (it was only 3 hours and she complained after that she was exhausted – come back to me when you’ve worked 3:30-11:30pm one night and been back in 6:30am-3:30pm the next morning). The afternoon was spent at Granny H’s house before she took us out for dinner at a little restaurant on the Lisburn Road. It was lovely but boy does she talk… I swear she didn’t shut up for longer than 30 seconds in the 6 and a half hours we were with her. We went home and I curled up in bed to watch The Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man’s Chest. Love it.
And that brings you up to date! I’ll probably blog about our travels while we’re away so keep an eye out for my posts!
Hope the upcoming week is good to you all!
Ktkinnes xx

Posted in Book reviews, Lifestyle

Ideas… 

I have an idea for a book club for as many people as we’d like, would anyone be interested?
My thoughts would be that at the start of every fortnight/month we pick a book and everyone involved try to read it in the set time and at the end have a Twitter chat or something similar through another platform to discuss our thoughts?
Let me know what you think and whether or not you’d be interested! Or if you know of something similar that you can point me towards, then please do!
Ktkinnes xx

Posted in Lifestyle

Confidence

Tonight I took part in my first ever Twitter chat on @TheGirlGangHQ with some of the most wonderful people I have ever had the opportunity to talk to. Apart from knowing the topic was confidence, I had no idea what to expect or how to participate. However, my questions were quickly answered with the appearance of the first question of the night.

Q1. Firstly, would you describe yourself as a confident person? …and why?/why not? #thegirlgang ✨ 🙂

Now I immediately knew how I wanted to answer this particular question. I’m not at all confident. Well that’s a bit of an exaggeration now but before coming to university my confidence was way below that of even a typical teenager with low self confidence and self esteem. It may be wrong of me but I put a lot of that down to the way my mum talked to me as I was growing up. 
I always knew I was heavier than the other children my age, and I knew that, when compared even just with my sister, I’m not most people’s ideal person in the looks category. But for some reason, I don’t remember it actually affecting me until I was about 11 years old. One night I stood in front of the mirror in our hallway and sobbed to my mum that I hated myself – I was fat, ugly, spotty, had glasses, hated my hair, and never felt I looked at all presentable. I remember crying for what seemed like ages while mum promised me that I could lose the weight if I tried, we would look into contact lenses, everyone gets spotty, and it was always easy to change your hair if you don’t like it. What she didn’t do was tell me that I was pretty and it didn’t matter what I looked like. 

At the time it didn’t bother me, but looking back at it now, I’m slightly annoyed that she didn’t at least try to boost my confidence. Instead, she fed into my lack of confidence. And from then it’s been a continued stream.

I know I need to lose weight to be healthy. I understand now that my acne is due to an imbalance of hormones and can be controlled if I stay on medication, but I didn’t like the side effects. My hair is slowly becoming my favourite feature, when it’s been dyed and is sitting nicely. I alternate between glasses and contact lenses, depending on how I feel, but my glasses are finally ones I like and I feel more confident about my rubbish eyesight. Finally, I accepted I don’t have to dress for anyone apart from myself.

This however doesn’t mean I am confident. It means that I have great friends who are helping me realise it doesn’t matter what I look like as long as I’m true to myself. My confidence was beginning to really build recently, until one person I really look up to for their confidence knocked me back a bit by making a comment about how I only ever talk about TV shows. I didn’t tell them at the time that what was said hurt, I don’t intend on telling them that it still hurts. However, I’m using their comment to push myself to try new things (she says watching Gogglebox and blogging).

Another factor that really knocked my confidence was coming to terms with my sexuality. Most people find that finally accepting themselves boosts their confidence. For me, it had the opposite affect (effect? I never know, sorry!). With homophobic parents, and a genuine fear of ever having to talk to them about my relationships, I became even more withdrawn from my family (apart from my amazing sister, Rachel) as I didn’t know how to be myself around them. In November last year, Rachel accidentally told them. It turns out my dad is okay with talking to me about it openly, Mum is another matter all together. But we’ll worry about that if/when I actually end up in a relationship. 
Wow those were rather depressing paragraphs, sorry! Onto question 2.
Q2. Are there specific things that help boost your confidence? Do you try put things into practise to help yourself? #thegirlgang ✨

When feeling extremely lacking in confidence, I take a me day. I spend as long as I want in the shower/bath and take the time to work on my hair until it sits perfectly. Then I put on either Bridget Jones’ Diary or another feel good film/TV show, and eat my body weight in whatever food I can reach. While the food normally ends with me slightly regretting it and feeling guilty, I also use that feeling to remind me that it’s okay and good to enjoy the things I love. 

If this doesn’t help, I end up going to sit with friends and they quickly bring me back up! One place I will always feel confident is here, where I can blog in peace and know that if people aren’t interested they just won’t read. I’m so used to people putting me down because they don’t agree with or like what I’m saying, so it’s freeing to know that here I will always be able to talk openly to you.
Q3. Can you share something that reaaallyy doesn’t make you feel confident? #thegirlgang ✨ *hugs all round, & give tips to others if poss!*

Here, I listed everything I’ve mentioned under question 1. What was interesting was the fact that a lot of us felt the same about our looks – we don’t fit into society’s “norms” and that other girls judge us more than guys do. This intrigued me because although we’re aware of it, we don’t do anything to try and fix it for ourselves and others. If I go on Twitter now, I’ll see multiple posts regarding weight loss, make up techniques and anything else that will help us look “better”. And while I can’t say that looking great doesn’t feel great, I feel like there’s a lot of stress for us all to look a particular way.

Public speaking also came up quite a bit under this topic. Thankfully, GCSE drama helped me with this aspect of life – doesn’t mean I feel confident with it! My technique when having to speak in front of people in university is to dress comfortably rather than smartly. Dress comfortably and you’ll gradually feel more comfortable in front of these people.
 I’d love if everyone told us something that makes them AMAZING ^__^ (bc we all have something) #thegirlgang ✨

This one was great. Everyone was able to list something that they liked about themselves. Here, I said I’m loyal to my friends. If there’s one thing that’s important to me, it’s my friends. I will stand by them when they’re going through problems, and I will do anything to be there for them when they need me. 

Q4. When around other confident people, does it help encourage to be the same? Or do you tend to shy away? #thegirlgang ✨

I find there’s a bit of a balance to it here. I had one friend in school who always had excess confidence, bordering on arrogance. She intimidated me and was one of the few who brought me down during my school years. Now at university, I find it encouraging to be around confident people, especially a few certain people who I’ve talked to about their confidence before. Without them, I don’t think I’d have even this little confidence I can claim.
And lastly, if you have a photo that makes you feel confident, or was taken of you at a confident time – please share! 🙂 #thegirlgang ✨


I felt so confident the day I took this picture, as my hair, makeup and hat were sitting perfectly. And the lighting hid all my spots! However, this picture of us in Paris is now one of my favourite pictures, taken with my favourite people who make me feel confident and happy with them.

To finish the chat, TheGirlGang tweeted You may be kind, beautiful, funny, creative, thoughtful – you are something SPECIAL ❤ Focus on your good qualities #thegirlgang ✨

And that’s what I wanted to remind you all today. No matter what you dislike about yourself, or what causes you to be anxious, there will always be the good qualities to keep you going!
Keep strong

Ktkinnes xx