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Stress

Whether you’re currently stressed, or you’re relaxed and ready to take on the week, stress is something that comes for us all at some point and likes to play havoc with our lives – mentally and physically.

 

Right now, while writing this, I feel a tiny bit stressed. I know I have 6 posts to write up today and this is the first of those, so I want to do the best I can with each of them. It’s not like I can just write them, schedule them, and forget about them again! But overall, I’m not too stressed at the minute. If I stop and think about hosting the GRLPOWR chat on Thursday, then yes I will be quite stressed but we’re trying not to think about that right now. My questions are written up and all I can do now is hope you all come join in.

 

Normally, I get stressed over very trivial things. They may seem trivial to you, or even to me now while I’m reasonably relaxed, but in those moments I get so wound up about the tiniest things. For example, and one my friends won’t let me forget for a long time, we barbecued for 24 people and it reached a stage I just wanted food. Dad sent through the freshly cooked sausages and a few minutes later no one had moved but it was one of those situations where family were waiting to let friends go first and friends were waiting to let family go first, and I just didn’t want to be the first to go. So I waited a few minutes and then went through and told everyone that sausages were ready and they should go get them. Except I may have been rather forceful in how I said it… whoops… Ah well, it meant I could eat!

 

I get stressed if I’m running late for something, if I’m travelling, if I’m organising things, and if people don’t do what they were meant to do when they were meant to do it. Normal things like exams stress me out. I got so worked up when I had to go to my first LGBTQ+ event on my own last year that I ended up crying in Nuala’s room before going. Loud noises, big crowds, tight enclosed spaces… Wow I get stressed over quite a lot!

 

I try not to let these things affect my day-to-day life but sometimes it does get the better of me, and I end up a quivering mess feeling paranoid and struggling to breathe normally. Either that, or I just get angry and/or cry. If you remember back in August during my resits? I was so stressed I cried for 3 hours without stopping – not great! Normally during exams I get stressed because I feel I know nothing so spend all day inside revising and doing nothing else, and then when it comes to bedtime I can’t sleep because I feel guilty for not being up and revising. So I get up and continue revision, and start the next day exhausted. And so the new day brings about revision with very little going in due to the lack of sleep and so the endless cycle begins.

 

However, I know I have at least 3 people who can calm me down when I reach that level of stress. Nuala is great at supporting you and being there for you when you need her, even if the rest of the time she doesn’t give off that impression. The number of times I’ve been stressed and ended up going straight to Nuala to help me calm down and gain some perspective. Jason is also pretty good at calming me down, simply because of the number of times he’s had to in the past! The third actually isn’t in the flat (and this is nothing against Mary – she’s great but I haven’t gone to her when I’m properly stressed yet. But yes, Pablo  (again, he asked for this name on the blog so you won’t know him) has a calming quality that I am drawn to when stressed. I don’t know what it is but he would actually be my first point of call if he wasn’t so flipping busy all the time.

 

So, as you may have noticed, those three are all based in Scotland and it very much depends on if they’re around for me to talk to, so what do I do to destress without them? Well, any form of exercise is good. Even if it’s just a walk, getting into a completely different state of mind is good. Either a hot shower or bath also helps, especially if I can play my music as loud as I want and sing along. Of course, I frequently turn to blogging when I’m stressed – I suppose that makes you a part of my ‘who calms me’ part! Reading, knitting, colouring, anything creative just distracts me and I eventually feel better. Surprisingly, watching TV and films doesn’t actually help me unwind – I do them, but they don’t give me that feeling of clarity that the others do. Funny, considering how much time they take out of my day.

 

How about you? What stresses you out and how do you deal with it? Let me know!

 

Ktkinnes xx

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Day 4 – My Friends

Happy Sunday everyone! What have you all got planned for today? If you’re looking for my Sunday Summary post, it will be live at 3pm GMT today! I’m sorry if you were looking forward to it… But it will be back later!

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Today’s theme is Who has always been there for you? Now, as it’s under the heading of ‘My Friends’, I’m going to have to have a similar post to my April Photo a Day Challenge in that I have 3 main friends I wish to thank today, before adding a few special people!

 

My flatmates, Jason, Mary and Nuala, are the people who make me happy and they each have their own way of doing so. I’ll give you a quick recap on how I met each of them.

Jason – My first time meeting Jason, he was drunk. Funny, that pretty much describes most of first year. It was the Tuesday night of fresher’s week (a week of partying and meeting other first years) and I was in Kitchen 14, drinking tea, listening to Callam playing guitar, and talking to Toby and Ryan. Truth be told, I was kind of scared of Toby and Ryan at the start because of their size (they both workout a lot) and so it was interesting talking to them. The door opened behind me, and in through it staggered a tall guy in a t-shirt and jeans. He introduced himself as Jason and went over to the lockers to get some food, blabbering away about some really friendly Canadian he had met on his way in. Taking his food with him, Jason went to bed and, truth be told, I thought nothing more of him that night. The next day, I was waiting outside the Boyd Orr building for an induction lecture for maths, letting us know what the upcoming year would bring. In my usual fashion, I was there early and so sat down to look at my phone when next thing I spotted Jason walking towards me – he was going to the induction lecture too! We sat beside each other in the lecture and walked back to Cairncross together while he told me all about his granny’s dog, and his younger siblings. We parted ways, agreeing to speak sometime – well he did only live 2 doors away from me, I didn’t have much choice, did I? That night was the headphone disco and I really wish I could tell you it was amazing. However I wouldn’t know, I ended up taking an extremely drunk Jason back to Cairncross in a taxi and having to find someone to help me carry him to his room as he couldn’t walk. As a thanks/apology, I was bought a tub of Ben and Jerry’s Ice Cream and so began our friendship.
To tell you about Mary, I’ll have to start with Nuala.

Nuala moved in on the Saturday, the day after me. My room was opposite Kitchen 15 and so, when I heard someone going in, I opened the door to say hi. We briefly introduced ourselves and talked about who had claimed what cupboard spaces. I then made a comment about a group of us walking into the city centre to buy some of the things we’d forgotten to bring to uni. Nuala agreed and later that day I knocked on her door and we headed into town. After a while, we got bored in the city centre and walked back, talking about ourselves, our siblings, and our dogs. I made a mental note to remember Nuala, she reminded me of someone but I couldn’t quite place her. When we got back to Cairncross, Nuala suggested we invite people to our kitchen for pre drinks and so she posted a message on the Cairncross 2014-2015 Facebook page inviting anyone who wanted to come.

Nuala’s message to the Facebook page

 

The people I soon became friends with commented underneath!

As you can see, Mary was one of the first to reply. She was also the first to show up! Arriving with alcohol in one hand, mixer in the other, Mary struck me for having a gorgeous tan and these really blue eyes. Never mind that though, she actually had the courage to turn up alone to somewhere completely new! I can’t remember if we spoke much that night but I soon remembered her through playing multiple rounds of Ring Of Fire.
These three, this year especially, have kept me from going insane. They’re there if I need someone, they put up with my incessant talking and rambling, and they haven’t tried to kill me – yet. There is still time.

Without these three, my first year at uni wouldn’t have been as great as it was, and I certainly wouldn’t have ever survived second year without their encouragement and support. I can’t tell them how much they mean to me so hopefully they’ll read this and know, either that or I’m going to have to think of ways to show it!

 

Whilst they’re new friends, the Girl Power girls are definitely friends for life. They’re so supportive and literally always there. Like there is always one of them awake. I won’t list them all here, hopefully they’ll read this and know how much they mean to me.

 

Who has always been there for you?

Ktkinnes xxx