Hi all! I’m Gemma from BeautyBlitzBlog, and I’m writing this post to draw attention to the amazing women who helped me during and after the birth of my son Owen. I don’t want to spend too long dwelling on his birth; it was a rather traumatic experience and I’d rather save it for another blog post! Instead, when International Day of the Midwife is upon us, I’d rather focus on those wonderful ladies who helped me through it, giving them the credit they well and truly deserve (and earned!).
It wasn’t even during the birth that I had contact with the Midwives who helped deliver my son. I had previously suffered a miscarriage at 10 weeks, and my local midwife came to see me at my house when I phoned her to report the miscarriage. She held my hand whilst I cried, and helped in her own way to ease the loss I felt. Upon confirming my second pregnancy, she helped me through my worries that the same would happen again, and was there for all visits, appointments and check-ups. She helped turn a previously distressing experience into something beautiful and special for me and my husband.
When Owen eventually decided to come (5 weeks early!), it wasn’t a straightforward birth and at the last minute a doctor had to be brought in (Off the Picket lines – long story!!) to deliver Owen, but the care I received up to this point was impeccable and cannot be faulted in any way. They did everything in their power to make sure I was comfortable; fetching me water and bowls when I felt sick, held my hand when the cramps were strong as my husband hadn’t arrived yet (again, long story!). One Midwife, Claire, even gave up her break to sit with me and told me a long story about her son to distract me when I was being examined down there. They were so strong and in control; they constantly reassured me that everything was normal and that it was the most amazing thing happening to my body. Looking back, I know midwives do and say these things every day, but they made me feel so important and cared for.
And in the follow up month that Owen spent in the NICU ward in hospital, they were just so incredible. As he was incubated, I found it incredibly challenging not being able to hold him or cuddle him, and trying to establish breastfeeding was a nightmare, but the Midwives on the wards were simply wonderful in the support offered to me – both inside and outside the hospital. They were so patient with me; I know it’s not easy dealing with a hormonal first time mom who’s been separated from her baby, but if I annoyed them with my questions they didn’t let on once. The postpartum support was incredible; all the home visits and office visits to ensure my son and I were doing well really helped me a lot. They were always so positive, even on days when I felt a failure they made me see that I was doing the right thing by persevering. I didn’t struggle in those early few weeks – despite the difficulty in the situation – because they were there.
Afterwards, when we were both back at home I struggled with breastfeeding, developed Mastitis twice and Owen wasn’t latching and feeding well, but they were continually at the end of the phone, to offer advice and drop in and check up on us if I needed it. It was a gift having such powerful and controlled women (and men) supporting me and my husband during the birth of our son, and celebrating with us the miracle of pregnancy and birth.
Because of you, I have a beautiful, healthy little baby, whose health and wellbeing I am thankful for every single day. You made the experience so wholeheartedly wonderful, I truly am blessed to have had such a caring and efficient team. I have no doubt that the benefits of having a midwife from a medical perspective are extensive, but most of all it was the support they provided me in facilitating the normal process of birth that makes them valuable. And for that I’ll be eternally grateful. Midwives rock!!
International Day of the Midwife is on 5th May. You can find out more about it here.
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