How often do we see people on Twitter and other social media platforms tell us “if you don’t know what to blog about, don’t bother blogging”? Well, last night I had a bit of that dilemma before deciding to say stuff it and write this post you are now reading.So hello! Good morning, good afternoon, good whatever time of day it is with you when you get reading! I actually found out through my WordPress app the other morning that Mondays at 7am (UK time) is the most popular time for people to read my posts… strange when you consider I’m normally hitting the snooze button right around then!
But yes, before writing this post I generally didn’t know what I wanted to say. This in turn actually made me think a lot about what was said at the blogger’s brunch on Sunday (which you can read about here) – stay true to yourself. Have I been staying true to myself?
We were all talking about blogs in general, but a few of the PR people there made a very strong clear point that while anyone and everyone can blog about the same thing, it’s who we are and how we choose to write that makes both us and our blogs unique. In other words, and to take a phrase I’ve only actually heard being used in The Apprentice, we are our own Unique Selling Points. Cathy also reminded us that what Susie says about Sally usually says more about Susie than Sally, but that’s a conversation for another time.
Bringing the conversation (is this a conversation? It seems more like a monologue of rambling) back to what I was originally trying to say, our blogs are down to us. Every little thing we write contains a part of us. Our personality.
I made the decision over Christmas to strip down the multicoloured aspects of my blog. Instead, I found myself looking at the plain white sites and a simple header that so many people have and use. I thought (at the time) it would get me further in the way of promoting my blog. Surely if all the successful blogs, and the bloggers I aspire to be like, have crisp clean websites then I needed one too to fit in with the crowd I wanted to be a part of? Maybe that’s where things started to go downhill for me.
Focusing more on what other people would be thinking of my little corner of the internet made me make some decisions about Life With Ktkinnes. I was going to do more sponsored posts or collaborations. I was going to make Fridays my review days, any tags would go up on a Monday, and Wednesdays would just have to be written on a Tuesday night briefly when all I wanted to do was sleep instead of create content I wasn’t overly proud of.
Sunday made me realise that I have lost the initial spark that blogging gave me. Some of you may remember why I started blogging in the first place – I felt I had no one to talk to, and so decided that if even one person out there read my ramblings and interacted with me then it would be worth it. What 18 year old me didn’t expect was to be sitting nearly 4 years later with over 500 followers on my blog, never mind what I currently have on Twitter and everywhere else. I never expected that one of my best friends would be a girl I chatted to daily on Twitter for 3 months until we got to meet up for lunch one day. And if you’d told me that I would be looking at ways to monetise my blog, I would’ve probably laughed in your face – why would I ever want to do that??
Well this is what I meant when I tweeted out on Monday night that I felt I had lost that connection with my blog. I was lacking the inspiration to work on it, because it was becoming work instead of the hobby I always wanted it to be. Sure, it’s a hobby that takes up the majority of my free time, but isn’t that the best part about finding something you love? You get to spend as much time on it as you choose!
Now this is probably sounding like I don’t want to do sponsored posts or collaborations. And that couldn’t be further from the truth. However what I don’t want is to rely solely on those posts to keep Life With Ktkinnes running. In fact, opening up and pouring all this out onto the keyboard as I roast to death in my bedroom (why is this house so warm when outside is so cold??) has actually really helped.
While I appreciate that many of you may follow me for either my book reviews, or any recipes I choose to share with you (and I will be bringing these back a bit), I also feel like (or rather I hope that) many of you follow me because you are interested in my thoughts and opinions on everything.
So after boring you all for about 800 words (possibly just over) on all this, I can probably sum it up into one sentence:
I am bringing back the proper
ramblings of a so-called adult
and plan on sharing them more often.
And there you have it, plain and simple. All I ask is that you remain patient with me while my blog and I go through what I would like to think of as couples’ therapy. While we learn to fall back in love with each other (which is wrong because we never stopped loving each other, we just seemed to forget the things we loved and focused on the negatives), I will be trying to change things up a little.
As I said above, I would still love to collaborate with fellow bloggers and brands, and as always any guest posts are welcome, but I’m stripping Life With Ktkinnes back to that 18 year old with few friends and zero self-confidence, and bringing back the honesty and the heart-pouring that came from the start.
With that, I’ll love you and leave you. If you have any special requests for topics, or any suggestions on things you like or dislike about my posts (either the old or new!) then please do leave a comment. Or if you’ve gone through something similar with your blog then I would love to hear how you reconnected.